IDC?



Anyone who knows me knows that I have a bad habit of wearing my heart on my shoulders. I’ve never been a fan of wearing a mask to hide my feelings. I’d rather be honest and risk getting hurt.

My expressions are the first thing to tell you, I’ve got you on my mind. Recently, I had a hard time dealing with them with a beautiful younger woman I met earlier this year.

To be honest, I was hoping it was just a case of infatuation since she really isn’t my type and I never believed I would fall for her. However, her youthful shyness has grown on me.

The more I try to convince myself that I really don’t care about her, the more I realize the hard truth that I do. Most of us can’t face the truth (1 John 1:14). Sometimes I wish I could be apathetic and that’s what this new blog is about.

Apathy?

Apathy is “The feeling of not having much emotion or interest.” However, when you think about it, it contradicts itself. If we say we have no feelings or interest about someone or something, and then take the time to think things through, there is some degree of concern.

It’s like the term, “meaningless sex.” Most people have sex because they want to connect with others on an intimate and physical level. Sex is about connecting, not just being happy for little while. It brings temporary pleasure for a few hours at most, yet real love can last a lifetime.

Sex often disappoints us—love never disappoints. Sex is a temporary fix for emotional happiness. This is why most guys use sex to win the hearts of women.

The only things they really care about are themselves and what they can get from a woman. At times we all say what we want to get what we want.

This is why King Solomon says a prostitute can be had for a loaf of bread (Proverbs 6:26). We only care enough to get what we want. And once we get what it, then we can move on to somebody else.

But with love, we’re never too far gone. The older I get, I understand love is more than just lip service, if we really do care.

Lip service?

If we’re honest, we all talk about love more than we actually do it. Perhaps this is why the early church writers warn us so much about not just loving in word, but in truth and action. (1 John 3:18, 4:20). Real love never fails (1 Corinthians 13:8).

We can’t put on the Christian mask or church clothes and not love others unconditionally. If I really want others to see Christ in me, I must love the unlovable in action. As a Christian man if I don’t have love, I have nothing (1 Corinthians 13:2). If the love of God is in me, then how can I say, I don’t care(IDC)?